What is your self-narrative for 2019?
Too often we get caught up in our activities, in our interactions with others, to the point that we either lose a little bit of ourselves or end up adopting people’s opinions of us without even knowing it. Consequently, we subconsciously undermine our own self. How many times did you end up criticizing yourself because of what other people said or did to you? How often did you decide to change something in you to please others? How many times have you experienced a change of mood based on external factors ? How hard are you on yourself?Are you deep down nurturing a healthy self-narrative that helps you bring about the real you? Are you applying self-love? What is your self-narrative for 2019?
Here are 6 things I learned from 2018 and which will guide me in 2019, I hope they inspire you when reflecting on your self-narrative :
1- I do not need permission to indulge myself. Too often I made excuses for not pleasing myself and put people’s interests before mine. I will now also listen to my personal needs.
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”
– Andrew Matthews
2- My happiness is my responsibility. I used to let my emotions get the most of me and without realizing it, relied on others to be happy. It was a mistake because when one’s happiness depends on someone else, one is bound to be disappointed, to feel let down and eventually to be unhappy.
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
– Stacey Charter
3- I call the shots. I choose what to think of myself. People can say or think what they want. It has no effect as long as I do not consent to it.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
4- I truly apply self-love. I love myself enough to shield my emotions, my feelings, my thoughts and to apply more discipline in loving myself.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
– Kim McMillen
5- I am always ready to get back on my feet and to start again.
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
6- Whatever happens, God has my back.
“Prayer is a powerful tool which combined with an unwavering faith and resolute action WILL definitely tip the scale in your favour.”
This year, I changed my self-narrative and this is creating the shift I need to achieve the vision I have for 2019. What is your self-narrative for 2019? Choose a self-narrative that gives way to the real You, that empowers You and that allows You to live a happy, wealthy, exciting, blessed life while playing an active and positive role in your family, in your community, in the world”
I wish you a fabulous, blessed, peaceful, happy, and prosperous 2018!
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Published Author of New Moi New Life : Five Ways to Build a New You and Live an Extraordinary Life, International Speaker, Professional Coach, Blogger, Founder of http://www.newmoi.org